Worth can’t come from anywhere but from within. If it is determined on something outside of yourself it is doomed to fail.

So often in my life my worth was determined on what I looked like, what my man or a man thought about me, who my friends were, if someone was mad at me or not, or a myriad of other things that could shift at any given moment.

I was on shaky ground. If my worth was determined on all those outside factors it all depended on how the day went or if someone gave me a compliment or not.

Self worth has to be based on something that doesn’t change. It is based who I am. My character. My essance.

Do you know who you are? What are the things that make you you?

In my 3rd step to transformation through divorce and heartbreak I tackle this step with my clients. We do this in multiple ways but one of them is finding out your personality type and having a profile made of your specific gifts and talents. I once had an ex tell me he hated everything about me including my personality. Ouch. That one hurt. I was left feeling like I just couldn’t do anything right.

If you have read any of my work you know I don’t sit around blaming ex’s for what happened in the breakdown of a relationship. Instead I utilize step 1 and “CHOOSE” to look at how I created this and what to do to shift it.

I didn’t like me. I didn’t see my worth. How could I expect my lover to think any different? I have learned to embrace all of me including the parts I don’t like so much, or have been criticized for.

I invite you to do the same. Let me help you!

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